Drawing from their own life experiences, Rayna (known as @onehungryjew on Instagram) and Ashley (founder of @brosbeingbasic on Instagram) share bluntly honest, but absolutely hilarious advice about being single and dating through their podcast Girls Gotta Eat. They feature guests that range from comedians like Ross Asdourian, the author of the book “Broken Bananah,” to professional psychic medium Kelly Knight. A friend introduced an episode about travel called “Let’s Talk About Traveling” to me in which they recount a horrible trip they had to Paris, discuss why it’s so important to have a travel buddy (whether it’s your significant other or not) and share some of their own hilarious experiences of things that didn’t go exactly to plan. After one podcast, I became so intrigued that I began listening to their other ones regularly. As a single 20-year-old who recently tried to “make things work” with someone who was absolutely not the right person for me, and after beating myself up for it, this podcast gave me clarity without even realizing it. Unlike most podcasts or speakers that aim to promote self-confidence and tend to be preachy, the hosts’ hilarious approach to crises instills self-confidence in the listener by ensuring you that you are not alone.

In some of their episodes they discuss popular dating topics and issues such as online dating through apps like Tinder and Hinge, including how guys who are not available at the moment will string you along to do what they call an “alley-oop” to their future self, and how to spot cheaters. They have guests like Hinge’s founder Justin McLeod who, in “Should You Stop Swiping?” explains how to get the most out of the app and why he created it the way he did. Katie Sturino (@the12ishstyle), a plus-size woman encouraging body confidence and founder of the brand Megababe, also made an appearance. They have an episode about sharing bank accounts with your significant other, picking up guys in bars, if “vacationships” can survive in real life, and if friendships should turn into friends with benefits. For the past two months I have easily been able to find an episode that will put my mind at ease for any worries or questions I have.

They push forward three major messages. First, there is someone out there for everyone, and you may be taking your sweet time to find each other. You could bump into them tomorrow, or they could be across the world, but no matter what the case is, there is no need to rush. The second message they push is about acceptance and understanding. The type of person you think might be perfect for you could, in reality, be totally wrong for you, so try to be open to getting to know everyone rather than shutting some down based on superficial qualities. The third is that everything does not always work out the way you want and the best thing you can do is just to accept the situation, take the positives and move on.

While this podcast might not be a perfect match for everyone, these women speak openly and honestly about everything in their lives and show an extreme love for their listeners. For example, at the end of each episode they play “games” involving their audience. In the segment called “Is this weird?” they take emails from listeners who share strange things they’ve experienced in the dating world like sex kinks, or my favorite submission about a boyfriend who “clacks” around the house in his bunion correctors. In another segment they run, “Mansplaining,” they have male guests to explain some of the weird and messed up things that guys do. They make them explain why they still watch all your stories and like all your posts despite never talking to you again, and why they feel like they can send unsolicited photos.

There is nothing about this podcast I don’t love, and I hope if this article has intrigued you that you try listening too. These women have helped me become more confident in myself when it comes to dating, along with day-to-day life. Whether or not women realize it, there are constant societal messages being sent to us about who we should be, and more often than not they are meant to bring us down. The constant messages of shame that people project onto women who embrace their sexuality and the way men belittle women to sex objects are shut down in this podcast. These women point out how ridiculous it is that we value trivial things like body counts, labels we put onto relationships and pressure of society to be a perfect partner. They discuss that feelings are natural and that anyone who minimizes how you feel or judges you for it is not worth your time. My grandmother once said to me, “we’re all silly little people trying to make our way through life,” and this podcast is a weekly reminder of that for me.

Sophia Perkins can be reached at [email protected].