I somehow managed to lose my voice this weekend. I don’t know if it’s because I talk too much or I tried to speak over my instincts, but my throat is suffering.

Whatever I had said has now led two very different guys to switch personalities and neither one of them has any idea about the other. A little scandalous, I know, but I promise it was unintentional.

I bumped into the first guy a few weeks back, and I was surprised to find he would like to bump into me again if he could. Well, of course he could! He is attractive, smart, interesting…why not? However, I happen to know this guy quite well. Well enough to remember he was the hottest thing on our high school market, and any girl in her right mind would happily bow at his feet…maybe even touch them if they could. And I know he knew it.

But I was never the type to fall for guys like that. I needed to be the center of attention. And two dominating personalities would never work – at least back then.

That was four years ago, and apparently people change. No one would recognize him now. And I assume no one really did when all of our old friends met up on Friday and saw his utmost interest in wooing me.

Of course, I am very skeptical in these situations. I had to see if he was serious and so I tested him – he passed. Instead of asking me over at the end of the night, he asked me to lunch the next day. Since lunch, he has called me consistently just to see how I am.

Congratulations. We have a winner. If only this article could be published at our reunion! Ironically, quite the opposite happened the next night with another guy. But I must admit I feel badly about the incident because I pushed it to happen. One of my closest male friends is my ex-boyfriend’s good friend and maintains loyalty to the both of us. He has been through almost, if not all, of our drama and has surely seen me at my worst of times. I love the guy. He always seems to see only the good in anything that is bad, and could never dream of hurting those who may deserve it. A pure soul.

My ex ended up cheating on me with a girl he knew our friend was in love with. Not a pure soul.

And even though that broke the two of us, he stood by his side. I, on the other hand, spent months convincing our friend to open his eyes and see the disrespect. As time passed by, I realized maybe two hurt people could come together and find happiness with each other. But he wouldn’t have it. He admitted it was a hard offer to refuse, but it would be unacceptable. I knew this already, and I didn’t care. I insisted that he thought about the possibility, and came to my own conclusion that this pursuit was worthless. He stood strong, and I had to respect that. However, last weekend we forgot about the wrong and felt what seemed right…well at least I did. It was all so innocent in the beginning, but he couldn’t continue. And then it was over.

Too dangerous to explore and too late to take it back. I realized the ironic turn of events for both of the guys, and how unconventional their actions were. But then I question; were any of these character slip-ups for real? Maybe. Maybe not. And whatever may be, it was worth it.

ADVICE:

Q: There is this really cute girl in one of my classes that I like. I don’t know her, but I want to ask her out sometime. I have no idea if she’s single, or if I’m even her type. I have rejection issues, so how can I go about getting her on a date without ending up as a failure? -J.B.

A: I am a firm believer in taking risks. Just go and ask her out. But first, you need to act as though you have confidence. I’m sure some girls would disagree and prefer passive guys, who are all nervous and such. But I’m almost positive a girl would at least consider you if you just took that extra leap of courage and went for it. Just know that the worst possible thing that could happen is that she isn’t interested. Expect that and maybe you’ll be pleasantly surprised.

Q: I have a huge crush on my best girlfriend’s brother. I know he likes me too, but it’s so awkward when the three of us are together. We’ve gone out alone a couple times, and I believe the drama this may cause is worth it. I’m tired of sneaking around, what do I do? -K.R.

A: You really should have confronted her about this before anything happened. But now all I can say is if you truly like this guy, then go for it. You have to talk to your girl though. Tell her about what you have already done, and what you want to keep doing with her brother, but do it carefully. If she’s your good friend she will know what’s best and may ok the whole idea. Please get her consent though. Never ruin a friendship over a guy – especially if she’s a good friend to you.