Adorable, disastrous and messy all can describe a relationship between two people who live on the same floor, also known as “floorcest.”
Though most recommend avoiding such a relationship at all costs, sometimes destiny intervenes. Here are some steps to beat the negative odds and make a same-floor relationship work.
Talk about dating beforehand.
Yes, it is awkward, but it will prevent the two of you from infringing too much on each other’s space. This means talking about how you handle being around friends, both on and off of the floor, and figuring out if roommates are comfortable with you bringing someone in the room. The latter one should be discussed in any relationship, but it is especially important in this case. It can be very weird for a roommate if you are bringing in a mutual friend.
Give each other enough space.
You live on the same floor. You are going to see plenty of each other, no matter what. Make sure you make time for yourself. Go see friends, sit down by yourself for homework, just do something where you are not around your significant other. There is too much of a good thing, and in this case, it could be the deal breaker of the relationship.
Be aware of problems.
Like in any relationship, problems are not going to disappear by themselves. In a “floorcest” relationship, problems often become much bigger at a faster rate, because both individuals are constantly reminded of the other because the pair frequently see each other around the dorms. Solve problems before they have a chance to grow, or they will consume your thoughts.
Be strong.
Because you are surrounded by the same people, you probably have some friends in common. Friends can often disapprove of “floorcest” relationships, claiming that problems in a relationship interfere with the happiness of friend groups. It is important to be able to constantly communicate honestly with friends and your significant other to address issues.
While following your heart isn’t a bad thing, keep in mind that using your head can save you some heartache. In a “floorcest” relationship, always weigh the pros and cons with the other person before diving into something.
Alissa Mesibov can be reached for comment at [email protected].
